My linesisters and I talk everyday on our listserv, sending out different tidbits, or just participating in general frivolity because we enjoy each other like that (don't be jealous, just step your game up). Anyway, one of my LSs sent out a link to Tyrese talking about... what else!?! Why Black women are "too independent" and that's why they can't get a man. Like, seriously. I'm not even really going to get into that too much. Yes, sometimes that forceful personality is a turn-off, but as a tweet I recently read (don't remember who from) said, women would be able to be women when men start to be men. And that itself is a little misguided and misogynistic, but I do understand the sentiment. Women did not wake up one morning deciding to forgo men. They got fucked over one too many times and had to make a decision to preserve their sanity. (Some of it was definitely on them and their decisions, but it wasn't a one-sided thing.) [And I hate generalizations, but it's the easiest way to get this point across.]
Anyway, here is the link to Tyrese's "interview" and a very nice post discussing it:
I'm just going to post my reply to my LS' email chain. I'm so frustrated with ALL of this...
"Y'all know how I feel about this. I'm SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO tired of people talking about Black women like there is something wrong with us! People cannot get around all of the stereotypes they have of Black women to see the real women that stand in front of them! Katt Williams once said (truth through comedy) that is women keep complaining about men, talking about how "niggas ain't shit," etc, then they need to wonder what their p*ssy is attracting "ain't shit niggas." And while I think that's generally sound, if not a little insensitive, why is noone addressing the OBVIOUS counterpart to that? If men keep encountering "bitches, whores, and gold-diggers," then they need to wonder what about their dick (or better yet, MENTALITY [same thing?]) is attracting these women, instead of blanketing thee stereotypes over all women, "specifically Black women."
Honestly, I struggle with my own feelings about myself and where I am now too much to have whole media outlets and stupid ass "celebrities" tell me that I am the reason that men can't get with my program. And I consider myself pretty introspective, and try to admit to myself when I have issues (which I am constantly doing), but I can't get with the idea that the problem is as general as the fact that I am a Black woman. What the entire hell? I can't. But I also can't escape it. That concept is EVERYWHERE. I really am ready to give up and live with my dog (can't do cats) and my Rabbit, as Tyrese so eloquently put it, and be ok with it. Damn."
